Written by Angela
Wow. Watching our own reality tv show, Seeking Sister Wife, is just as exciting and painful for our family as it probably was for you! It’s really hard to see yourself on tv and see what made the cut and what didn’t. A week of filming gets condensed down to about 15 minutes of air time for each episode, so what we’re really seeing is a conglomerate of highlights and conversations not necessarily pieced together in order.
Why We Decided to be Authentic
A well meaning friend asked me, “Couldn’t you guys have pretended to get along better?” Lol. I totally get it. As polygamy is still new and unusual to many, people in our community, including us, are sensitive to what gets media attention. Because there are so many erroneous stereotypes, we certainly don’t want to lend support for them, and we’d like the world to see happy, shiny people.
The truth is, we are both happy in our family structure AND it is hard. We are an imperfect family, no doubt. Regardless, we still choose it… much like people in monogamous marriages. Marriage can be hard. We can have conflict with our partners. And we can still love them all the while.
More important than putting forth a complete facade, we felt that in accepting this role it was our obligation and desire to be REAL. Our job was to be ourselves and TLCs job was to make great tv. The things you see from us are real. We did those things. We said those things. What you don’t see is the whole story for context. We knew that was the way it would be, and we accepted the role anticipating that.
Our Intention With the Show
We consider this opportunity to be a great one, a chance of a lifetime, to be a much needed voice in our society to normalize plural families. We are not some underground freaks, though many in our community are made to feel that way. We knew that if we tried to pretend we were perfect that people would see right through us and call BS. In that case, no one would watch, be interested, or take us seriously. I wish we were more perfect. But we aren’t. So this is us. Raw. Vulnerable. Trying. Loving. Failing. Trying harder. And slightly scared to death. 😉
The thing is, we just want the right to live as we choose. It’s likely not for you and we’re okay with that. We aren’t trying to push our lifestyle or religion on anyone ~ we just want the right to live it. We are one of the last minority groups to have any civil rights. We don’t need it to be legal ~ we just don’t want to have the impending threat of prison hanging over our heads.
Seeing the House for the First Time!
A lot of viewers and fans are baffled that it seemed like we hadn’t ever seen the house before. Well, that’s because we hadn’t! We literally walked through it for the first time as you saw on the episode. We found the house online and moved forward with it sight unseen (other than pictures). It’s really hard to find a home large enough to accommodate our size of family and we had been searching for months without any luck. With the homes that we did find workable, until this point in time, the landlords wouldn’t rent to us because we are a plural family. Some just blamed it on the “size” of our family, while others were more blatant. The persecution is real. We also only had about an hour to decide on rooms before our moving trucks showed up, so it was very rushed and intense.
I (Angela) gave birth to my first child, Lenny, during filming. We were sad to see that hardly any of it was shown, as that is a storyline that they were very interested in while they were “courting” us. So there are two things I want to quickly share here, and then I’m sure I’ll do a longer, dedicated post about it later. In case you didn’t catch my age, I am 41-years-old. Before Lenny, I’d never been able to have a child, though wanting children for some 20-years. I knew the day would come because I knew that God had promised me that blessing, but as time wore on, my faith faltered. But on our honeymoon Drew blessed my body to be healed and cleansed and asked God to send me a child. Eight months later I found out I was pregnant. Ugh. It never ceases to pull my heart strings. This miracle that I waited some 20-years for… here he finally was coming.
Another part of this story is how I named him after my father. My dad and I were kind of estranged on some level for many years as we tried navigating through our different beliefs. We finally began finding our way just after Drew and I got married. I’m so pleased with my dad, and so proud to be his daughter and I couldn’t think of a higher compliment than to name my son after him. More on this and the name “Leonardo Vincenzo” later.
Brielle (12) and Jocelyn (9) Sharing their Thoughts
Those girls! We are so proud of them and their enthusiasm for sharing their thoughts. When we hear people say “Oh, the poor children [of polygamous homes]”, we want so badly to educate people and cause them to think! Who wants to hear more from the kids?!
Auralee’s Speech Impediment
Because there was so much talk about this, we decided to cover it in a separate post, coming shortly. Auralee graciously returns a heartfelt answer to a ruthless and cruel crowd.
Top Tweets We Find Funny!
You’ll see in one of the tweets below… They assume I’m the youngest wife, even though I’m actually the oldest. 😉
Amy Parker says to haters, “Check yourself. Men need 3 women to help them through a common cold…”
He likes women with names that start with A lol #SeekingSisterWife
— Jane Doe (@a_little_janie) January 15, 2018
Skype interview to become a wife. 2018 is wild. #SeekingSisterWife
— Ash (@AshUnapologetic) January 15, 2018
Do y’all know how much I’ve been looking forward to #SeekingSisterWife?! Questionable TLC reality programming fuels me like no caffeine can!
— ⚓Cranky Goldfish⚓ (@AlexYakAttack) January 15, 2018
What attracted all three of these good looking women to this man? And how did he talk the first one into agreeing to a plural marriage? #SeekingSisterWife
— Shawna McGrath (@AuntieBubba322) January 15, 2018
This Briney guy keeps adding younger wives. What a surprise!
— George YXU (@YXUGeorge) January 15, 2018
17 people under one roof…
“Goodnight wife number 1…”
“Goodnight wife number 2…”
“Goodnight wife number 3…”
— Will (@Willittolife) January 15, 2018
— Ash (@AshUnapologetic) January 15, 2018
“It would be great to have a companion.” GET A CAT #SeekingSisterWife
— Bravolicious (@Bravoliciousnes) January 15, 2018
Man this is too much these hoes stressing me out n I’m not even in the arrangement 😖😢💀#SeekingSisterWife
— Rose Buds (@RoseBuds16) January 15, 2018
Polygamy: you live with all your baby mamas #SeekingSisterWife
— the peoples’s Sgt (@ViperjockRon) January 15, 2018
— Julia Marie (@msjwoods18) December 27, 2017
Compliments to Sharis Alldredge for her picture!
Comment below and tell us your thoughts and ask any question about what you saw!